Tuesday, November 11, 2008

A Project for Missionary Wives

Hey, all you missionary wives out there....I've got a great project for you! A fellow missionary wife has been trying to get testimonials from missionary wives about dealing with culture shock. She feels like culture shock is something most veteran missionaries don't talk about with young missionaries, and I couldn't agree with her more! She has been posting these on her blog every Monday (www.StoversinPoland.blogspot.com), and they have been such a blessing to me!
I just sent her my testimony today. I thought I'd include it here ~ I know my fellow missionaries will understand, and maybe it will help some of you who are not missionaries to know how to better pray for the ladies that God has called to countries around the world.
If you're interested in helping with the project, I'm sure that Ginger would love to hear from you! (If you leave a comment and your email address for her on her blog, she can tell you more about the project and how to get it to her).

My Dealings With Culture Shock
I was quite sure when I moved to the mission field that I would be the first missionary never to suffer from culture shock. I had heard it talked about, and I even had one missionary friend try to give me some advice about it, but I was sure I would never have problems like "everyone else." Boy, was I in for a surprise! When we came to Ghana we were supposed to work and live with an older missionary and his wife near the capital for a year; we were not supposed to learn the language, because the national language was English; we were supposed to go live in the Western Region after the first year. Within the first 12 hours, all the plans had changed - the missionary was only going to stay for a short while because of health problems; we learned that even though the national language was English, hardly anyone could really speak it; a problem arose with our contact in the Western Region. Within the first 24 hours, we moved into a "local" apartment in a very poor part of Kumasi, in the Ashanti Region. Needless to say, culture shock hit hard and fast. I was also six months pregnant (that's another story in itself :) ), and my hormones were going wild. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. Some
moments all I could feel was anger. Sometimes, I was overcome with fear. And sadly enough, I even struggled with hatred. Nothing made any sense. What was up was down; what was black was white. I had come to Ghana to love these people and lead them to know Christ, but most days it was all I could do to drag myself out of bed. I began counting down the days until I could go home! In fact, I was so excited
each morning when I got to tear off another day on my calendar! I think I probably had the worst case of culture shock ever! The wonderful thing about this hard story is that in the midst of one of the darkest times in my life, Jesus was right there with me. There were many days that I took my eyes off Him, but He never took His eyes off me.
One of the first lessons He taught me in this time was that all I needed to figure out was what He wanted me to do each day, and then do them. Psalm 61 was a wonderful blessing, especially verse 8, "So will I sing praise unto thy name for ever, that I may daily perform my vows." The second lesson the Lord taught me was
actually from a quote on my calendar (the one I couldn't wait to see disappear!). It said, "Whatever you can do,...Begin it. ~ Goethe. It seems silly that the Lord would use that, but it really caught my attention. I'd lost sight of the fact that God had brought John and I to Ghana, and He had a reason for everything I was facing. He didn't want me to give up; He wanted me to get up! He wanted me turn to Him in my weakness and seek His strength, not my own. He wanted me to do what I could, not spend all my time and energy worrying about what I couldn't do. I would love to say that after the initial six months everything was perfect, but that wouldn't be the truth. Culture shock often has more than one level. After about two years in Ghana, I started really struggling again with fear. I was scared to death to go anywhere without John, and most days I didn't even want to leave my house at all. This was exceptionally hard for me (and John), because I've never been a clingy person. This is when God taught me another important lesson - that fear is one of Satan's favorite tools! I had to cling to II Timothy 1:7, "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." What freedom that verse brought me! For a time I had to pray that verse almost non-stop, but the wonderful thing is that God proved that verse to me. As I relied on Him to take away that fear, He filled me with the power, the love, and the sound mind I so desparately needed! What a mighty God we serve!
And now, I've learned another reason that God gives culture shock. He gives it to us so that some day we can help others! II Corinthians 1 :4-5 says, "Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ."

5 comments:

  1. Hey Patty, Your last two posts were such a blessing to me. It is not just missionary wives who suffer "culture shock". I think any capacity of the "ministry" offers some kind of shock! {Pastoring, homeschooling, evangelizism}. You have always been a friend I thought of often, and I am amazed at what the Lord has done in your life! btw...Do you ever come acrossed any tracts in Ghana from the Hope of Israel? One of their missionaries attend our church, and they sent massive amounts of literature to Ghana. I also get a newsletter from some missionaries in Ghana that are from Charity Mission, I think they are almost like Mennonites. In their newletter this month they had alot of pictures from Ghana, and that helped me to see some of things you talk about. I love you!

    Miranda

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  2. Very touching post! God's promises are true. It is great to know the greatest comforter of all. It does help me to know how to better pray for you and others.

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  3. Patty,
    While reading this I remember reading a few weeks ago. You talked about how you really could call Ghana your home now. Isn't God great! Love and miss you all.
    Joanna

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  4. Hello there!

    Thank you so much for sharing this testimony!

    Few are courageous enough to admit being afraid of the very people God has sent us to be in covenant relationship with...but we are human beings...and frankly, the conditioning that has been ingrained in us all of our lives does not disappear the instant we get off of the plane at Kotoka Airport.

    God uses these tests to show us what is REALLY TRULY inside of us....the wonderful...and the horrible... and praises to God that He shows us in order to reveal more of His strength to us!

    Praise God for your sharing!

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  5. Patty, thanks for being so transparent in sharing your "culture shock" experience. I wish there was a better way to prepare yourself for it. But really, more classes? More notes to jot down? I think that it is part of the growing process the Lord puts us through and it's tough! I think that sharing, openly, our experience with others may help to prepare them a little so they at least understand that it is normal to have culture shock! Thanks for sharing..it was a blessing to me!

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